He was so kind, such a gentleman, tied to the oceanside. Lighting a match on the suitcases latch, in the fading night. Ruffled the fur of the collie ‘neath the table, ran out the door through the dark, carved out his initials in the bark.
“She loved the guy. She did it for him. She would’ve done anything for him. Some people are like that. Some loves are like that. Most loves are like that, from what I can see. Your heart starts to feel like an overcrowded lifeboat. You throw your pride out to keep it afloat, and your self-respect and your independence. After a while you start throwing people out—your friends, everyone you used to know. And it’s still not enough. The lifeboat is still sinking, and you know it’s going to take you down with it. I’ve seen that happen to a lot of people here. I think that’s why I’m sick of love.”—Gregory David Roberts, Shantaram (via her0inchic)
my friends family and boyfriend know me well. Ive been worrying a crazy load about my future lately and feeling a bit down and my nearest and dearest knew exactly how to make me feel better… with flowers! I love them! Today I got 2 bunches of flowers, one from my boyfriend (orchids) and one from my brother (dandelions) my mum bought me a pot plant and one of my friends sweetly left me a little native flower in my glasses case. Feelin the love!
Perhaps we don’t like what we see: our hips, our loss of hair, our shoe size, our dimples, our knuckles too big, our eating habits, our disposition. We have disclosed these things in secret, likes and dislikes, behind doors with locks, our lonely rooms, our messy desks, our empty hearts, our sudden bursts of energy, our sudden bouts of depression. Don’t worry. Put away your mirrors and your beauty magazines and your books on tape. There is someone right here who knows you more than you do, who is making room on the couch, who is fixing a meal, who is putting on your favorite record, who is listening intently to what you have to say, who is standing there with you, face to face, hand to hand, eye to eye, mouth to mouth. There is no space left uncovered. This is where you belong.
Matt and I both live about 40 minutes outside of the major city in our area, albeit in different directions.. and to be honest recently it has been a huge pain. Our uni is in the major city, so we drive over an hour a day each, every day, 200 + days a year. All the good jobs are in the major city and for some reason both of us also seem to be interested in weird hobbies that only run there ie Salsa lessons and kickboxing classes. We are desperately desperately trying to get out of our respective houses and into our own lovely tiny house in the big city (not because we dislike our families, just ‘cause we are lame and miss each other) but its not happening quick enough and we’re ready! To add to the frustration we’ve had a few false “we’re finally leaving” false alarms which has sucked. I really feel like we have out grown our current situation and it is driving me mad so I wish it would just happen already!
People keep asking me whether I’m a feminist and to be honest I find it quite an uncomfortable question, particularly when asked by a feminist. To be honest I am unsure as to whether I really qualify because my beliefs on feminist issues are pretty broad.
For starters I believe that women and men should should be give the same rights in the workplace- equal pay for equal effort, equal chance of promotion, same opportunity for parental leave and the right to enter into any career of their choice if they have the skills required… for example in Australia women arn’t allowed to be navy divers, the reason being that they generally don’t have the lung capacity/strength required. It’s a scientific truth that women tend to be smaller and thus might not be suitable in many cases, but I think that the navy should remove the ban on women and instead enforce the physical attributes divers require ie a woman can be a diver if she has a large enough lung capacity. I also believe that women should be afforded the rights to do everything men are - it really shits me that Saudi women are not allowed to drive. I’m also pro choice- its my body and I’ll do whatever the fuck I want with it!
On the other hand I think this "Im not dressing my baby girl in pink ever or letting her watch disney movies because there are gender roles" shit is fucking ridiculous. By not letting her watch these things or dress in whatever the hell she wants you are effectively telling her that being “girly” is bad.. and its not! I’m not only going to show my daughter (if I have one) Disney movies and only dress her in Pink, but Ill buy her clothes in lots of colours and expose her to lots of different types of movies and toys and she can be whoever the hell she likes. If she likes Pink and horror movies, fine. If she likes to wear yellow and watch fairytales fine. If she wants me to cut off all her hair and play with dinosaurs, fine. She can be whoever the fuck she wants.
To be honest I don’t even think that such trivial things as the colour of the clothes you wear have a big impact on what moulds “you”. In baby photos I was pretty much always in pink or purple and had an impressive collection of floral dresses. Based on what a lot of feminists seem to believe you would assume that today I am a Barbie-esque bimbo who lets men walk all over her. To assume this would be terribly wrong. I wear jeans and band/dive shirts 99.999% of the time, In 2 months Ill have a degree in Marine Biology and just last week I got into a fist fight with a guy in a club after he grabbed my ass. Dont be messin’ with me.
As a science student I also have some really big issues with feminists who say “gender isnt real”….Its a scientific reality. I have a vagina. My hormones are different, my brain is wired different, my emotions are different. I am different. Does this mean that I should be treated differently? Yes, in some cases. Does this mean I should be oppressed? Ah hell no!
A lot of things “feminists” say make me cringe, and I think sometimes feminists tend to oppress other women with their feminism, particularly those who fill gender roles, or those who do the opposite which kind of defeats the purpose in my opinion. For example, I have been told on multiple occasions that I am “letting patriachy win” by having a majority of male friends. What the fuck is this statement? I am letting myself win by hanging out with whoever I goddamn please. If all my friends were women would I be oppressing males? would I be letting the “matriachy” win? Why does anyone have to win? Why cant we just call it a tie and all be buddies and love everyone?
In conclusion I think that women, and all human beings for that matter should support all other human beings in whatever they feel is right for them as long as it isn’t hurting anyone else. I think that we should all be given the same rights and I am fully aware that at present women are not being treated fairly. Based on the current state of things, I think I can say Yes, I am a feminist (albeit one with some different views) however, I think that once this equality is reached Ill scrap the tag. Why? because at the end of the day I dont think women deserve more than men or are some super awesome god sent better than everyone sex. I just want what I deserve. I guess you could say Im a humanist?
Im an ex-basketball player (because Im tall and cliche) & recent netball convertee (I was roped in by my boyfriends sisters) and holy jesus there are too many petty rules in that game. As in you essentially cant do anything but catch a ball. Also I keep getting called up for obstruction (which is when you stand closer than 3 feet to someone and put your hands in the air but nowhere near the person cause you cant touch them because it is THE GIRLIEST SPORT EVER) and Im not even obstructing…. I just have really really long arms. really long arms.